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Treatments That Result In Fluency

When I was a teenager and having had a stutter since the age of four I started to become rather disillusioned with the lack of real help or therapy that I was receiving. The typical and traditional route of speech and language therapy was just not working for me as I have mentioned numerous times already on this website and I was starting to become extremely frustrated. This is when I decided to ask my parents for additional help and support.

My dad asked:
“So what type of form of treatment are you looking for Steve?”

I had already expressed, to him and to my mother, my dissatisfaction with the help (or lack of it) that I had received via the speech and language therapists and about how much more difficult my life was becoming, due to the stutter, as I was becoming older.

But as for the question he asked, this was something that I had personally asked myself on numerous occasions, as I sought a solution. I therefore had an answer already in my head:
“Well the problem with going to see the speech therapists is the fact that they continually state that there is not a cure for stuttering which is something that I do not agree with and which is something that I do want to hear. I know in my heart of hearts that I am able to speak fluently, for example when talking to myself – therefore there must be a way for me to overcome the speech impediment. It is very easy for them to say that there is not a cure and that in a way kind of gets them off the hook for the extremely dismal results they have provided me.

The other problem with these speech therapists is that they really do not “get me” as they have absolutely no understanding as to what it is like to have a stutter. This is no doubt due to the fact that they have never had one. It is like somebody that is not an alcoholic telling an alcoholic that they understand what it is like – how can they?”

Why does nobody understand what it is like for me?

My dad then interrupted my flow:
“Yes I understand all of that but this is not answering the question!”

“I am coming onto that Dad! So I basically want to receive treatment via a person that has had a stutter and preferably from a person that has overcome it. I will then have a lot more confidence in the treatment/therapy that he or she is providing and I will be more content knowing that they have “been there”.

I want to be able to then continue to speak to this person for as long as is required for me to attain fluency as I doubt it will be a quick process.”

“OK Steve, I will do my best to find such a person to help you.”

Despite his best efforts he was unable to find any treatments of this nature and I had to endure a few more years with this type of speech impediment until I finally eradicated it from my life at the age of twenty-two.

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Stuttering

Stuttering – An inability to say exactly what you want to say, in any given situation, fluently. This is the simplistic way in which I explain what a stutter is, when asked. But of course it is way more complex than that. People who are fluent will stutter from time to time but then they kind of laugh it off as they see it for what it is – merely a blip and nothing to worry themselves about. For people who have a stutter there is a fear factor attached and it seems like you are constantly on “alert” and are therefore unable to relax. Each and every person that has this form of speech impediment is, of course, different.

The experiences which I had and the way in which stuttering impacted on my life will be therefore different to other people’s. The opinions in this blog post are merely my own and are formed from an eighteen year period from the ages of four until twenty two when I had a stutter. I am now aged thirty-nine and I now help other people who have a stutter to achieve fluency via a one to one speech course or via one of the self-help products that I offer. There is further information about these therapies on these pages:

http://www.stutteringtherapycentre.co.uk/the-stuttering-therapy-course

http://www.stutteringtherapycentre.co.uk/the-dvd-audio-book-and-the-ebook

As no doubt we all have, I have had to deal with many problems in my life and there have been times when I have been extremely depressed. There was one issue which was so much bigger than any other and that was the stutter. Ever since achieving fluency each and every other issue/problem that has happened in my life has been ever so easy to resolve. It is like I say to that particular problem:

“Look mate, I have overcome a stutter. Do you really think that you are going to be able to grind me down?”

I had also made a kind of promise to myself and to my brain during the period when I had the speech impediment. I knew that I was giving myself a really hard time as I was constantly worrying, constantly stressed out and very often depressed due to stuttering. I knew that this was having an adverse affect on my whole life, including my health. This was the promise that I gave:

“If I do manage to eradicate the stutter I promise that I will stop my worrying ways and become a stronger person.”

I am not one to go back on a promise and therefore I now deal with things head on and with a positive attitude.

Having a positive attitude was a must

There were many reasons for my negativity. To have a stutter is just awful. It makes every aspect of life that much more difficult.

As an example, an evening out with friends should be a joyous occasion and one to look forward to. I started to go out regularly to bars and clubs with my friends from around the age of seventeen (I achieved fluency at the age of twenty-two) and continued to do so for the next eight or so years. Were these occasions one’s I looked forward to? Absolutely not! In fact I dreaded them! Why? Because of the fear of stuttering, of course.

I would struggle to converse fluently with my friends and I would struggle to order the drinks at the bar. How do you think this made me feel? Yes, well I was about to swear then but I will refrain from doing so – it made me feel like crap!

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Are You Following Me On Twitter And Facebook?

I would guess after you have read the title of this blog post that you already know what I am going to ask you! Yes I was just welcoming you to follow the Stuttering Therapy Centre on Twitter. There are currently over 1100 people following our Twitter account and this figure is rising daily.

In the coming weeks, months and years I will be continuing to tweet and this will include information about any offers that I have at that particular stage. People who follow me can, of course, tweet me any questions that they have and by doing so can have more of a type of instant conversation than what is available via e-mail. I am also available to answer your questions and to converse with you on the telephone if you prefer, which is now seen as the more conventional method but one that is seemingly being replaced by social media.

Social media is becoming ever more popular

In a nutshell I am more than happy for you to contact me in any way that you choose, whether it be via Twitter, Facebook, the telephone, the post or via e-mail.

The younger generation, including my two children, have informed me that social media is the future which is one of the reasons that I have set up a Twitter account. Here is the link to the account: https://twitter.com/stutteringcured

As well as Twitter we also have a Facebook page and again any offers and promotions are also going to be included on this page. To follow me on Facebook all you need to do is to “Like” the page. Here is the link to the Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/stutteringtreatments

I look forward to conversing with you via social media!

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