Stuttering

Stuttering – An inability to say exactly what you want to say, in any given situation, fluently. This is the simplistic way in which I explain what a stutter is, when asked. But of course it is way more complex than that. People who are fluent will stutter from time to time but then they kind of laugh it off as they see it for what it is – merely a blip and nothing to worry themselves about. For people who have a stutter there is a fear factor attached and it seems like you are constantly on “alert” and are therefore unable to relax. Each and every person that has this form of speech impediment is, of course, different.

The experiences which I had and the way in which stuttering impacted on my life will be therefore different to other people’s. The opinions in this blog post are merely my own and are formed from an eighteen year period from the ages of four until twenty two when I had a stutter. I am now aged thirty-nine and I now help other people who have a stutter to achieve fluency via a one to one speech course or via one of the self-help products that I offer. There is further information about these therapies on these pages:

http://www.stutteringtherapycentre.co.uk/the-stuttering-therapy-course

http://www.stutteringtherapycentre.co.uk/the-dvd-audio-book-and-the-ebook

As no doubt we all have, I have had to deal with many problems in my life and there have been times when I have been extremely depressed. There was one issue which was so much bigger than any other and that was the stutter. Ever since achieving fluency each and every other issue/problem that has happened in my life has been ever so easy to resolve. It is like I say to that particular problem:

“Look mate, I have overcome a stutter. Do you really think that you are going to be able to grind me down?”

I had also made a kind of promise to myself and to my brain during the period when I had the speech impediment. I knew that I was giving myself a really hard time as I was constantly worrying, constantly stressed out and very often depressed due to stuttering. I knew that this was having an adverse affect on my whole life, including my health. This was the promise that I gave:

“If I do manage to eradicate the stutter I promise that I will stop my worrying ways and become a stronger person.”

I am not one to go back on a promise and therefore I now deal with things head on and with a positive attitude.

Having a positive attitude was a must

There were many reasons for my negativity. To have a stutter is just awful. It makes every aspect of life that much more difficult.

As an example, an evening out with friends should be a joyous occasion and one to look forward to. I started to go out regularly to bars and clubs with my friends from around the age of seventeen (I achieved fluency at the age of twenty-two) and continued to do so for the next eight or so years. Were these occasions one’s I looked forward to? Absolutely not! In fact I dreaded them! Why? Because of the fear of stuttering, of course.

I would struggle to converse fluently with my friends and I would struggle to order the drinks at the bar. How do you think this made me feel? Yes, well I was about to swear then but I will refrain from doing so – it made me feel like crap!

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