The Battle To Cure Stuttering May Be Self Sabotaging Your Efforts

The majority of adult stutterers have had this problem for the majority of their life. The vast proportion of their adult life is spent seeking out self-help therapy, or even attending speech therapy sessions in an attempt to achieve fluency.

Not every method works for everyone and that’s why for those who have tried and failed to develop speech fluency, sometimes multiple times; simultaneously develop this internal negative attitude that they have to accept the speech problem for what it is, and live with it.

You don’t.

Your belief system is shot when you experience failure multiple times at anything. If at first you don’t succeed, try again. However, when you do try again, self-belief is the most powerful weapon you have. You must believe it is possible to achieve fluent speech.

With every failure, there is always knowledge.

You will learn more about your speech patterns the more you study your own speech. When you understand your speech pattern, you’ll be able to identify your stop words, starter words, and even safe words.

There are some stutterers who know their safe word is perhaps ‘see’ and when they hit a stumbling block, they will revert to the safe word to help with pronunciation of the stop word.

This can be useful in the short-term for getting you out of a messy communication predicament but eventually you will come to realise that you need to let go of certain word safety issues, because that is what will keep you practicing controlled stuttering.

Controlled stuttering is a method that fits well with most adult stutterers because the problem has been with them from a very young age. They reach the stage of accepting the problem, and seeking out coping strategies to communicate more efficiently.

Controlled speech provides a level of comfort and since you aren’t trying to cure the stutter, failure is not an option. You’re only making it easier to speak.

The easy option is always the first choice, but to really have any chance at achieving fluent speech, you need to master self-competition. Stop looking up success stories on YouTube, and the miracle stories reported in the press. The only success happens when people take an individual approach to overcome stuttering.

No stutterer is the same, which is why there are always a percentage of those in therapy classes who won’t succeed. Especially when in a group environment as deep down, despite it not being the class intention; people compete against each other to better their speech.

They self compare. The only comparison to your speech progression is you. Only you can strive to better yourself. Commit to learning more about your speech patterns, read, write, listen, learn, and speak what you have written down. The only way you will ever guarantee failure is just not to try in the first place, and that’s the safety net some people reach.

Self progression

Because of the relative safety of not trying, a vast amount of people have developed their personalities around their stuttering behaviour. It allows them to lighten up, use starter words, stoppers and control mechanisms that keep them in the relative safe-harbour of controlled speech.

That will get you through life, but it will not help you propel to someone greater. Someone with a strong internal belief of what’s possible will always be able to reach their aspirations.

It takes self-commitment, self-study, and self-belief. The only person who can help you master fluent speech is you. The power rests in your court. Every other technique, program, or self-help stuttering group are only there to provide you with support, guidance and mentoring. Nobody can change you though. Only you can do that and it begins by self-educating yourself on your speech patterns, and then taking measures to combat the problematic ones.

If you believe it isn’t possible and are seeking out a cure for stuttering, you’re looking in the wrong places. You first need to build your self-esteem, master positive thinking, change your attitude, and then correct your speech.

The beliefs you have may be what is self-sabotaging your efforts to reach fluency. It is possible, and it starts with a positive attitude and accepting the change.