The Struggle To Say Certain Words Beginning With Certain Letters

If you know anyone that has a stutter, you’re about to get a glimpse into what goes on inside their minds as they’re speaking with you.

The great majority of my clients speak to me about their struggles with certain words.

I can resonate because for eighteen years, I had a fairly severe stutter and with that came a tremendous amount of fear.

It’s that fear that keeps the brain thinking constantly to come up with substitute words instead of saying the word they fear saying aloud.

To help you understand, my major fear words started with the letters B, D, V, G, and K.

I’m from Birmingham, so let’s say I’m on holiday down in Devon and you ask me where I’m from.

My reply would have been: I’m from the West Midlands.

Next up, you’d likely as, oh… whereabouts in the West Midlands are you from?

I used to live in Kings Norton… another problem word so that’d be substituted for Stirchley, which is two miles away.

Over the years, I’d accidentally become somewhat an expert at quickly finding substitute words, which was mentally draining to say the least.

Having to constantly think of substitute words is like going through life with a mental thesaurus being called on in every conversation.

Speech therapists for years focused on confidence building because for a stutter… you were just supposed to accept it.

To just accept you have a stutter is like agreeing to go through life settling for second best. It was super bad advice. Negative and nowhere near a plausible solution.

It’s mentally draining, and for me, it was a life filled with stress; knowing that every time I picked up the phone, I’d have to call on that mental thesaurus again.

Stress due to having a stutter

If you do know someone with a stutter, when you’re speaking with them, you’ll probably notice them constantly thinking.

What they’re really doing is thinking of substitute words so they can avoid feeling embarrassed when they stutter over one their nightmare letters. Well the majority of them will be.

Each person with a stutter will have their own trouble letters. It’s not the actual words; it’s the first letter in the word.

Even just one trouble letter, has endless amounts of words in the English language, and each one will give someone with a stutter, a fear of using any words beginning with the letter they struggle to say aloud.

It’s that fear of saying those words that slows speech down as they’re constantly thinking of words they can use instead.

The next time you speak with someone with a stutter, notice the way they speak and please be patient.

If you’re looking for any advice, you can get in touch with me via whatever method suits you best:

• Email: info@stutteringtherapycentre.co.uk

• Landline telephone number: 0121 453 9208

• Mobile telephone number: 07967 549 070

Steve Hill

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